First off I have to say I am married, and happily so. However, it is an open marriage that permits each of us to have relationships with others. This is not something we do a lot and are constantly seeking, But it does allow me to have some fun when I meet the right person.

Having gotten that out of the way .. I am from Dublin, but live in Sacramento now. I work professionally and for fun I play bodhran - a traditional Irish drum which you can see in one of the pictures here. To add to my pictures, I am 5-8, 160 and could stand to lose a few pounds - another 10 would be great. My eyes are green and I have been told so often that they twinkle that I have to believe it. And my hair is gray, not blond as it appears in some of the pictures. I have been told I am witty .. sometimes a cutting wit, though I try to restrain that.

What sort of person do I like?? Smart, funny, uninhibited. For some reason people in the visual arts seem to have a special affinity for me and me for them - sort of odd, as I am pretty much a visual illiterate. Physical attraction has its place but is not an over riding issue. The real question is .. do we really like each other (and that IS a two way thing). I unashamedly like women better than men - as friends as well as lovers - and would like to meet smart, funny, sensuous women for friendship and maybe more. Someone who likes to go dancing would be great as I like to go more often than my wife. Finally, a woman who can accept our openness sufficiently to become friends with her also would be wonderful. I do like a woman who can keep me on my toes but not off balance.

Well - I have rambled on, somewhat disjointedly, here. Take a look and if you like - drop me a note.

If you would like to see more I have a "family" version of this page with pictures of my wife, stuff about family and so on. Family version

Hear my voice
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My Fantasies

I am so frustrated. I tried to explain up front that my fantasies are just that, that they are NOT what I am looking for, even though they would be greatly welcomed if they happened. But time and again I was told - well I don't fit your requirements. The fantasies are fantasies, not requirments or anything else but fantasies. I have moved them to a different page and if you are interested I will send you the link - It should not be too hard to figure it out for yourself.